Persuasion is easier to apply during a conversation between two people, as opposed to communicating in front of a group. This is because in a person-to-person setting, the opportunity to better understand the point of view of the other party exists. You can nitpick and delve into every single detail, as opposed to speaking to an audience, where the interaction is usually one sided.
In this kind of setting, it is possible for you and the other person to reach a compromise that would bring the best probable value for both of you. You may even want to change your stance while you're at it. In short, person-to-person conversations are so open and flexible that it allows not just you to change course, but also allow you to alter another person's mindset.
How do you get the most out of person-to-person interactions?
Have Patience
Persuasion may not happen on your first try - or even the second, the third, or the fourth. There are times that a certain idea has to be pondered on and assessed more deeply and critically, that to be too aggressive in getting acceptance might only ruin chances of a good deal. We've been through this situation before. How many times have we been told, "If you try to push me one more time, I will have to turn you down"?
Effective persuasion requires skill, not annoying pushiness. If you are sensitive enough to know the symptoms of agreement or submission, you will be able to steer the conversation to a point where you have the opportunity to persuade. If the other party doesn't seem to be leaning toward your idea and his or her body language shows it, then you should know better to try at another time instead.
Stop Yourself From Rebutting Too Much
One of the greatest mistakes of persuasiveness is your penchant to answer back and rebut. We often try to pretend to listen to another person's idea, which we do not really agree to, when in fact, what we are doing is preparing for a rebuttal to his or her statements. No matter how discreet you try to be at this, the other party will eventually notice that you are zoned out and will do the same to you when it's your turn to give your ideas.
What ensues is a discussion that has two levels: one that is verbal and obvious, and one that is based on underlying meanings and subliminal banter. You may be able to prove your point and so will the other person, but nobody really wins.
Nobody can successfully persuade if the conversation is just based on a subliminal battle. When you're trying to sell something, this will be your deal killer. In a friendship, this is what will burn bridges. This habit is very undesirable. Try to stop yourself every time you feel inclined to do so.
To effectively persuade another person, you have to truly believe in what you are saying. Intellectual honesty and genuine concern for other people will give you that persuasive edge. If you don't feel passionate enough, the other party will notice it and will not be convinced. It's not likely that you will be able to successfully sell an idea you have feel no passion about.
In addition, you can't be effective at persuasion if you are not open to being persuaded also. Remember, you're not the only one who is trying to get your point heard. In a person-to-person setting, the other party is also seeking to win you over to his or her side.
In order to persuade, you must be sincere. Aside from that, you also need to effectively communicate your emotions and thoughts. You can do this not just by saying the right things, but also by employing the proper assertive behavior and body language. Thus, if you want to improve your persuasion skills, don't be a drag. Be open-minded and show it.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Conversation Blunders and How to Avoid Them
The major blunders in our conversations are, naturally, the violation of the general principles of communication. Such include talking about topics that are considered taboo, talking behind somebody else's back, and basing stories on exaggerations, or worse, lies.
However, these are not the only blocks we can stumble on when we engage in conversations with other people. There are so-called mechanical blunders, as well, which often result from not thinking seriously about what we are talking about, carelessness, or not keeping a close eye on our own conversation techniques.
Below are some of the most common technical conversation blunders.
Blunder 1: Using pet words regardless of their suitability to the topic or the situation
There are people who call everything they like 'fabulous', 'cute', or 'darling', and call things they don't like 'weird', 'dull', or 'lousy'. There are appropriate words to describe certain things. A building is not cute; a movie cannot be ghastly; a book cannot be weird; a restaurant cannot be a darling. Use words properly. Also, if you are one of these people who use pet words a lot, try to reduce their usage to a minimum. Be aware of the things that are coming out of your mouth. It can be very annoying.
Blunder 2: Using big words inappropriately
You've encountered people like this already - those who like using superfluous terms and phrases (probably to make a good impression). There also are those who seem to enjoy using words like 'basically', 'actually', 'so to speak', 'you know', etc. Get them out of your system. Not only are they unnecessary, they're also time and effort wasting.
Blunder 3: Exaggerating
A lot of us are guilty of this. We tend to introduce our stories with "Let me tell you about the weirdest thing I've ever experienced" or "This is the most amazing thing I've ever seen." While these kinds of statements are subjective and you are entitled to them, you should also think about the other person in the conversation. It might not be so for him or her, and by being so, the momentum you tried to create did not have the effect you were expecting. Get real.
Blunder 4: Getting too personal
You don't need to dish out all the dirt about your life just to get attention at a party. People will naturally listen to you if you make sense, not because you're giving fodder for gossip. Telling too much about yourself is like baring your soul to a group of strangers. It's okay to be real about your feelings, but it's awkward to get too revealing, because you don't know how other people will react to your stories. It could lead you to your undoing and you have no one to blame but yourself.
Blunder 5: Too much slang.
If you're conversing in English, use proper English. Don't bastardize the language and pepper it with slang. You can only use slang if the people around you speak the same way. But if you're in a group with people of diverse backgrounds and interests, slang is not appropriate. Speak in a manner that is understood by all to avoid possible conflict.
Proper style of communication can enhance your relationships, boost self-esteem, and help you achieve lifelong success. On the other hand, continuous use of conversation blunders may hinder you from attaining your goals; so be very careful and aware of every word coming out of your mouth.
However, these are not the only blocks we can stumble on when we engage in conversations with other people. There are so-called mechanical blunders, as well, which often result from not thinking seriously about what we are talking about, carelessness, or not keeping a close eye on our own conversation techniques.
Below are some of the most common technical conversation blunders.
Blunder 1: Using pet words regardless of their suitability to the topic or the situation
There are people who call everything they like 'fabulous', 'cute', or 'darling', and call things they don't like 'weird', 'dull', or 'lousy'. There are appropriate words to describe certain things. A building is not cute; a movie cannot be ghastly; a book cannot be weird; a restaurant cannot be a darling. Use words properly. Also, if you are one of these people who use pet words a lot, try to reduce their usage to a minimum. Be aware of the things that are coming out of your mouth. It can be very annoying.
Blunder 2: Using big words inappropriately
You've encountered people like this already - those who like using superfluous terms and phrases (probably to make a good impression). There also are those who seem to enjoy using words like 'basically', 'actually', 'so to speak', 'you know', etc. Get them out of your system. Not only are they unnecessary, they're also time and effort wasting.
Blunder 3: Exaggerating
A lot of us are guilty of this. We tend to introduce our stories with "Let me tell you about the weirdest thing I've ever experienced" or "This is the most amazing thing I've ever seen." While these kinds of statements are subjective and you are entitled to them, you should also think about the other person in the conversation. It might not be so for him or her, and by being so, the momentum you tried to create did not have the effect you were expecting. Get real.
Blunder 4: Getting too personal
You don't need to dish out all the dirt about your life just to get attention at a party. People will naturally listen to you if you make sense, not because you're giving fodder for gossip. Telling too much about yourself is like baring your soul to a group of strangers. It's okay to be real about your feelings, but it's awkward to get too revealing, because you don't know how other people will react to your stories. It could lead you to your undoing and you have no one to blame but yourself.
Blunder 5: Too much slang.
If you're conversing in English, use proper English. Don't bastardize the language and pepper it with slang. You can only use slang if the people around you speak the same way. But if you're in a group with people of diverse backgrounds and interests, slang is not appropriate. Speak in a manner that is understood by all to avoid possible conflict.
Proper style of communication can enhance your relationships, boost self-esteem, and help you achieve lifelong success. On the other hand, continuous use of conversation blunders may hinder you from attaining your goals; so be very careful and aware of every word coming out of your mouth.
How To Say No And Still Be Liked
We've all been in this situation. Somebody asks us to do him or her a favor and, though there are a gazillion other things we should do first, we find it difficult to turn the other person down because he or she has done us a favor in the past, or is a close friend or a family member. The concept of gratitude prevails and we find ourselves trapped in something we really didn't know why we committed to. We can sometimes be so worried at causing disappointment in other people, often at the expense of our own activities and interests.
Frankly, knowing how to say 'no' requires skill. Others might say that it shouldn't be hard to do. But, let's face it. We live as social beings and acceptance often occupies the number one spot in the list of virtues we want to achieve. Despite this, there are actually ways we can circumvent this difficulty. Subliminal persuasion is one way. Here are five more friendly, pain-free and reasonable ways to say 'no'.
1. Say 'no'; then show what the other person has to do to get a 'yes'
For example: An employee is asking you for a raise but you hesitate to do so because lately he's been skipping work and picking arguments with co-workers. Yet, he looks like he really needs it and has been working for your company for three years now. You want to give him a raise, but his recent behavior is a little disappointing. How do you say 'no'?
Tell him that you can't approve a raise right now, but will do so once you see an improvement in his work ethic. You can say, "I understand your need for a salary increase, but in order for me to implement that, we'll have to work on strengthening your work habits. Now, let's see how we can make that happen…"
2. Make it impersonal.
Make it sound like saying 'no' was a matter of circumstance, not of choice. An example of this is: "We've just paid our mortgage and my daughter is going off to college in two weeks. I won't be able to lend you money."
3. Say 'no' in a way that will make the other person say 'no' to himself or herself
Instead of saying 'no', teach the other person to say 'yes' to what you want. Do this subtly, of course. For instance, your fashion conscious sister wants to get a pink iPod while you want a blue one. You can tell her that while pink is a cute color, it's more difficult to match with her clothes. Once you level with her and link what you want with what interests her, she'll give in and agree with you.
4. Say you want to say 'yes', but…
Like tip number two, make it sound like you had no choice but to turn the other person down. This way, the relationship remains intact and no one gets hurt. Just don't involve other people, like blame your saying 'no' to somebody else, as this could result in conflict and ill feelings.
5. Say it nicely.
You're giving negative news, so you might as well do it nicely. Let the other person down easy to avoid misunderstandings. It's the least you can for the disappointed. People tend to be more accepting of bad news if it's brought in a polite and sympathetic manner.
Frankly, knowing how to say 'no' requires skill. Others might say that it shouldn't be hard to do. But, let's face it. We live as social beings and acceptance often occupies the number one spot in the list of virtues we want to achieve. Despite this, there are actually ways we can circumvent this difficulty. Subliminal persuasion is one way. Here are five more friendly, pain-free and reasonable ways to say 'no'.
1. Say 'no'; then show what the other person has to do to get a 'yes'
For example: An employee is asking you for a raise but you hesitate to do so because lately he's been skipping work and picking arguments with co-workers. Yet, he looks like he really needs it and has been working for your company for three years now. You want to give him a raise, but his recent behavior is a little disappointing. How do you say 'no'?
Tell him that you can't approve a raise right now, but will do so once you see an improvement in his work ethic. You can say, "I understand your need for a salary increase, but in order for me to implement that, we'll have to work on strengthening your work habits. Now, let's see how we can make that happen…"
2. Make it impersonal.
Make it sound like saying 'no' was a matter of circumstance, not of choice. An example of this is: "We've just paid our mortgage and my daughter is going off to college in two weeks. I won't be able to lend you money."
3. Say 'no' in a way that will make the other person say 'no' to himself or herself
Instead of saying 'no', teach the other person to say 'yes' to what you want. Do this subtly, of course. For instance, your fashion conscious sister wants to get a pink iPod while you want a blue one. You can tell her that while pink is a cute color, it's more difficult to match with her clothes. Once you level with her and link what you want with what interests her, she'll give in and agree with you.
4. Say you want to say 'yes', but…
Like tip number two, make it sound like you had no choice but to turn the other person down. This way, the relationship remains intact and no one gets hurt. Just don't involve other people, like blame your saying 'no' to somebody else, as this could result in conflict and ill feelings.
5. Say it nicely.
You're giving negative news, so you might as well do it nicely. Let the other person down easy to avoid misunderstandings. It's the least you can for the disappointed. People tend to be more accepting of bad news if it's brought in a polite and sympathetic manner.
Persuasion Tips To Help You Reach Your Goals
Having exceptional persuasion skills is one of the most essential abilities to possess in today's fast-paced society. We need the support and cooperation of other people to help us in our goal setting efforts. The saying "No man is an island" is an undeniable truth.
Here are some hot tips to effectively influence and persuade anyone you desire.
1) Be Nice and Friendly.
Smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to encourage and raise their spirits. Simple little things like these count a lot.
Make them feel that whenever they need support or just someone who can give them guidance, you'll always be there to lend a hand. They would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust and respect.
If you want to ask your boss a favor, do everything you can to please him. Overdeliver and exceed his expectations. Soon, he will notice your efforts and can easily be receptive to your persuasion efforts.
2) Enter their world.
You must understand the situation according to their point of view. Set aside your personal interests and focus on them.
Just pretend that if you are them, what would you do? What would be your suggestion? Then take the appropriate action that would be beneficial to them.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their hands while they talk to you, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring.
In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see themselves in you.
However, you must proceed with caution. Mirroring is different from mimicry. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you'll just get into hot water.
3) Provide them with undeniable proof or evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or opinions could be the most effective methods to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.
4) Satisfy their existing needs and wants.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantages to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it.
If you could concentrate more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established.
This is the most important thing to remember when persuading anyone. No matter how close you are to becoming like them or how compelling your evidence is, if it does not satisfy the "What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion endeavors will not produce satisfactory results. Always bear in mind how they will benefit from your actions.
Here are some hot tips to effectively influence and persuade anyone you desire.
1) Be Nice and Friendly.
Smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to encourage and raise their spirits. Simple little things like these count a lot.
Make them feel that whenever they need support or just someone who can give them guidance, you'll always be there to lend a hand. They would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust and respect.
If you want to ask your boss a favor, do everything you can to please him. Overdeliver and exceed his expectations. Soon, he will notice your efforts and can easily be receptive to your persuasion efforts.
2) Enter their world.
You must understand the situation according to their point of view. Set aside your personal interests and focus on them.
Just pretend that if you are them, what would you do? What would be your suggestion? Then take the appropriate action that would be beneficial to them.
Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their hands while they talk to you, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring.
In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see themselves in you.
However, you must proceed with caution. Mirroring is different from mimicry. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you'll just get into hot water.
3) Provide them with undeniable proof or evidence.
Explain to them how your ideas or opinions could be the most effective methods to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation.
4) Satisfy their existing needs and wants.
People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantages to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it.
If you could concentrate more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established.
This is the most important thing to remember when persuading anyone. No matter how close you are to becoming like them or how compelling your evidence is, if it does not satisfy the "What's In It For Me?" test, your persuasion endeavors will not produce satisfactory results. Always bear in mind how they will benefit from your actions.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
the day when i shared my net
It has been one month i had internet connection to my system ,i had low speed net at low price, the name of the provider of the net is DIGITAL WIRELESS NET . The day first i saw the person who is providing is a tall man who is lean long person with no mustacheses and he has his mouth in such a position that someone had tappered his mouth with a hammer. as this is a wireless net the technician told me that that u can connet to any number of systems need , with that ida i told to the felo w who is staying with his sister the above floor of the house , i told about this to him he accepted , se we asked the prvider to split the the connection ,we have to pay minimum amount of money for high speed as we r sharing it.
intially he told that he will provide the HUB and he ill look after every thing but when went out and asked he he said to bring that hub by us for us . Initilly he named it as 8pord plug nd siad to fech for itwe went here near my home to electrical shop one shop felow showed me a device which so small wich cost about 15 rupees ,nd went for many shops inthe night in the cold but we could not find the one named 8pord switch.
Finnaly next day we started for KOTI the place where we will get every thaing we need ,in koti the is a gulli named gujarthi gulli where all sorts of eletonic itms would be found we started the hunt for thart device in every shop i ask yhey kept a lank face and said noo no and no. as apart of our search we went in shop name ROWLAND wher one person lean tall white with spects havein large diameter
looks intellegent i asked for it he satred asking me how does that work i have minimum very minimum knowldge of electronics but u tryed to explain but what he thought i diont know he stared saying bkla blab balba bla bla ba , he even said he had done reasaerch on it, again i called the technician he said the name af the device is hub nd we got it easily there after lice cyndrilla story we live happily
intially he told that he will provide the HUB and he ill look after every thing but when went out and asked he he said to bring that hub by us for us . Initilly he named it as 8pord plug nd siad to fech for itwe went here near my home to electrical shop one shop felow showed me a device which so small wich cost about 15 rupees ,nd went for many shops inthe night in the cold but we could not find the one named 8pord switch.
Finnaly next day we started for KOTI the place where we will get every thaing we need ,in koti the is a gulli named gujarthi gulli where all sorts of eletonic itms would be found we started the hunt for thart device in every shop i ask yhey kept a lank face and said noo no and no. as apart of our search we went in shop name ROWLAND wher one person lean tall white with spects havein large diameter
looks intellegent i asked for it he satred asking me how does that work i have minimum very minimum knowldge of electronics but u tryed to explain but what he thought i diont know he stared saying bkla blab balba bla bla ba , he even said he had done reasaerch on it, again i called the technician he said the name af the device is hub nd we got it easily there after lice cyndrilla story we live happily
Sunday, January 10, 2010
How to Stay Motivated Working Out
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
* notebook
1.
Step 1
Write down your exercise routine and goals and keep track of your progress.
2.
Step 2
Change your routine when your results start to slow down, your body gets use to what your doing which slows down progress, so try new exercises , change the order in which you do them or change the days you workout. this should keep results coming.
3.
Step 3
eating a well balanced diet is essential in reaching your goals ,but every once in a while treat yourself .It will keep you from getting to frustrated with your diet.
4.
Step 4
get plenty of sleep and drink lots of water,your body needs plenty of time to recuperate after a hard workout,8 hours a night is recommended.
5.
Step 5
get a friend to workout with you, you can motivate each other,and support and help each other.
6.
Step 6
Use a mirror more than a scale, dont weigh yourself everyday.
7.
Step 7
Take time off if a break is needed ,sometimes a week or so off is needed to rest and get focused again.
Things You'll Need:
* notebook
1.
Step 1
Write down your exercise routine and goals and keep track of your progress.
2.
Step 2
Change your routine when your results start to slow down, your body gets use to what your doing which slows down progress, so try new exercises , change the order in which you do them or change the days you workout. this should keep results coming.
3.
Step 3
eating a well balanced diet is essential in reaching your goals ,but every once in a while treat yourself .It will keep you from getting to frustrated with your diet.
4.
Step 4
get plenty of sleep and drink lots of water,your body needs plenty of time to recuperate after a hard workout,8 hours a night is recommended.
5.
Step 5
get a friend to workout with you, you can motivate each other,and support and help each other.
6.
Step 6
Use a mirror more than a scale, dont weigh yourself everyday.
7.
Step 7
Take time off if a break is needed ,sometimes a week or so off is needed to rest and get focused again.
How to Stay Motivated Working Out
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
* notebook
1.
Step 1
Write down your exercise routine and goals and keep track of your progress.
2.
Step 2
Change your routine when your results start to slow down, your body gets use to what your doing which slows down progress, so try new exercises , change the order in which you do them or change the days you workout. this should keep results coming.
3.
Step 3
eating a well balanced diet is essential in reaching your goals ,but every once in a while treat yourself .It will keep you from getting to frustrated with your diet.
4.
Step 4
get plenty of sleep and drink lots of water,your body needs plenty of time to recuperate after a hard workout,8 hours a night is recommended.
5.
Step 5
get a friend to workout with you, you can motivate each other,and support and help each other.
6.
Step 6
Use a mirror more than a scale, dont weigh yourself everyday.
7.
Step 7
Take time off if a break is needed ,sometimes a week or so off is needed to rest and get focused again.
Things You'll Need:
* notebook
1.
Step 1
Write down your exercise routine and goals and keep track of your progress.
2.
Step 2
Change your routine when your results start to slow down, your body gets use to what your doing which slows down progress, so try new exercises , change the order in which you do them or change the days you workout. this should keep results coming.
3.
Step 3
eating a well balanced diet is essential in reaching your goals ,but every once in a while treat yourself .It will keep you from getting to frustrated with your diet.
4.
Step 4
get plenty of sleep and drink lots of water,your body needs plenty of time to recuperate after a hard workout,8 hours a night is recommended.
5.
Step 5
get a friend to workout with you, you can motivate each other,and support and help each other.
6.
Step 6
Use a mirror more than a scale, dont weigh yourself everyday.
7.
Step 7
Take time off if a break is needed ,sometimes a week or so off is needed to rest and get focused again.
How to Make a Motivational Poster
When there's a difficult job to do or goal to accomplish, it can be difficult to stay motivated. Whether it's studying to get good grades, keeping up a high work output at your place of employment or losing weight, a motivational poster can act as an inspiration to stay motivated and continue doing the job or reaching for the goal. Family members or fellow employees can participate in the creation of the motivational poster, thereby helping to keep an entire group of people motivated.
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
* Poster Board
* Color Markers
* Pencil
1.
Step 1
Write down specifically what you want your motivational poster to accomplish, whether it's work harder, get better grades or lose weight.
2.
Step 2
Brainstorm ideas on what words to use that will spur you and other to accomplish the goal. For example, if you want to get better grades, you could write "Studying is for winners." If you want to lose weight, you could write "Tomorrow, a slimmer me." Keep the number of words short so its message can be taken in at a glance.
3.
Step 3
Sketch some ideas for background shapes over which you'll print your words. Arrows and starburst patterns can be effective eye-catchers. Rectangles and ovals can also help to accentuate the arrows and starburst patterns.
4.
Step 4
Draw the background shapes with a pencil on your poster board. Then draw the words over the background shapes. The words should be "on top" of the background shapes, so erase any background shape pencil lines that cross over the words. Vary the thickness of the letters to give the words added weight.
5.
Step 5
Color in the background shapes with colored markers. Be careful not to color in the shape of the words yet. Also, avoid having a background shape be the same color as you'll be using in the words so that they'll stand out more.
6.
Step 6
Take a marker and fill in the color for the words. Use a black marker to outline the words. Add an exclamation point if desired for emphasis
Instructions
Things You'll Need:
* Poster Board
* Color Markers
* Pencil
1.
Step 1
Write down specifically what you want your motivational poster to accomplish, whether it's work harder, get better grades or lose weight.
2.
Step 2
Brainstorm ideas on what words to use that will spur you and other to accomplish the goal. For example, if you want to get better grades, you could write "Studying is for winners." If you want to lose weight, you could write "Tomorrow, a slimmer me." Keep the number of words short so its message can be taken in at a glance.
3.
Step 3
Sketch some ideas for background shapes over which you'll print your words. Arrows and starburst patterns can be effective eye-catchers. Rectangles and ovals can also help to accentuate the arrows and starburst patterns.
4.
Step 4
Draw the background shapes with a pencil on your poster board. Then draw the words over the background shapes. The words should be "on top" of the background shapes, so erase any background shape pencil lines that cross over the words. Vary the thickness of the letters to give the words added weight.
5.
Step 5
Color in the background shapes with colored markers. Be careful not to color in the shape of the words yet. Also, avoid having a background shape be the same color as you'll be using in the words so that they'll stand out more.
6.
Step 6
Take a marker and fill in the color for the words. Use a black marker to outline the words. Add an exclamation point if desired for emphasis
How to think Positive, Stay Focused, and Motivated
Instructions
1.
Step 1
Do you wish that you could stay focused, motivated and keep a positive attitude at all time? You know, that feeling that you get and feel when have just come out of a great seminar, read a fantastic book or listened to a great audio. You feel like you can climb any mountain, swim any seas and sell ice to the Eskimos. After a couple of days that feeling fades and eventually melts away until the reality of life gets in the way. That's when you tell yourself to think positive despite the challenges that life sends you.
Here is a strategy which will turbo boost your positive attitude, give you laser beamed focus and make you catch fire with motivation that people will come from miles to watch you burn. I have used this strategy to prepare my mind so that all the positive influences are more effective and as a result I have achieved more in the last 90 days than I have achieved in the last 2 years:
2.
Step 2
Go on a 30 day Mental Detox. Don't watch TV for 30 days. News, Negative soaps, gossip shows etc. Garbage In Garbage out.
3.
Step 3
Don't listen to the radio unless you are listening to great songs with positive lyrics and no radio host with negative opinions.
4.
Step 4
Read 15 - 30 minutes everyday at the beginning of every day from a uplifting book to boost your positive attitude, no trashy novels, Think and Grow Rich, How to win friends and influence people, The magic of thinking big, Unlimited power etc.
5.
Step 5
Listen to a personal development cd program every day e.g. personal power, the art of exceptional living, the magic of influence etc. 5. Exercise more, park further away and walk around the block. Walk instead of driving everywhere; walk up the stairs instead of taking the lift or escalator, better still if you can, join a gym.
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Step 6
Disassociation: spend less time or limited time with negative people instead of 3 hours give them 20 minutes of your time.
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Expanded association, get around positive people, join a networking club, network marketing company, business breakfast meeting or toastmasters.
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Cut out the newspaper, disempowering and limiting information.
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Drink lots of water. If you are dehydrated it allows the nutrients to get in and release the toxins.
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Step 10
Reflecting 15 - 30 minutes focusing on and reading your goals, what you want to have happen, what you are grateful for.
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I guarantee that you will see some dramatic results over the next 30 days. Keep a success journal and let me know what great changes you have experienced with your new positive attitude.
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Do you wish that you could stay focused, motivated and keep a positive attitude at all time? You know, that feeling that you get and feel when have just come out of a great seminar, read a fantastic book or listened to a great audio. You feel like you can climb any mountain, swim any seas and sell ice to the Eskimos. After a couple of days that feeling fades and eventually melts away until the reality of life gets in the way. That's when you tell yourself to think positive despite the challenges that life sends you.
Here is a strategy which will turbo boost your positive attitude, give you laser beamed focus and make you catch fire with motivation that people will come from miles to watch you burn. I have used this strategy to prepare my mind so that all the positive influences are more effective and as a result I have achieved more in the last 90 days than I have achieved in the last 2 years:
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Go on a 30 day Mental Detox. Don't watch TV for 30 days. News, Negative soaps, gossip shows etc. Garbage In Garbage out.
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Don't listen to the radio unless you are listening to great songs with positive lyrics and no radio host with negative opinions.
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Read 15 - 30 minutes everyday at the beginning of every day from a uplifting book to boost your positive attitude, no trashy novels, Think and Grow Rich, How to win friends and influence people, The magic of thinking big, Unlimited power etc.
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Listen to a personal development cd program every day e.g. personal power, the art of exceptional living, the magic of influence etc. 5. Exercise more, park further away and walk around the block. Walk instead of driving everywhere; walk up the stairs instead of taking the lift or escalator, better still if you can, join a gym.
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Disassociation: spend less time or limited time with negative people instead of 3 hours give them 20 minutes of your time.
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Step 7
Expanded association, get around positive people, join a networking club, network marketing company, business breakfast meeting or toastmasters.
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Step 8
Cut out the newspaper, disempowering and limiting information.
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Step 9
Drink lots of water. If you are dehydrated it allows the nutrients to get in and release the toxins.
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Step 10
Reflecting 15 - 30 minutes focusing on and reading your goals, what you want to have happen, what you are grateful for.
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Step 11
I guarantee that you will see some dramatic results over the next 30 days. Keep a success journal and let me know what great changes you have experienced with your new positive attitude.
How to Keep Cool When Rude is the Norm
"You lie!" Congressman Joe Wilson screams at our President. Rapper Kanye West storms the stage and steals spotlight on the biggest night of Taylor Swift's life. Tennis star Serena Williams berates a judge over a botched call. "Seinfeld's" Michael Richards puts down a heckler with a racist rant.
What's with these people?
Tina Brown, of "The Daily Beast," blames the economy and financial frustrations for the short-fuse phenomena that are stalking the nation like a rudeness pandemic. She may, technically, be right--but worldly pressure is a flimsy excuse for such antics.
Your mama taught you better. And if you've forgotten what she told you, here's how you can learn to keep your cool in a rude, rude world.
Instructions
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Step 1
Rely on the Facts
Politicians, comedians and talk show hosts may make big bucks for being uncivil, but you won't, says "Los Angeles Times" columnist Tim Ruten. Disregard of the facts may be entertaining, but unless you're reeling in the dough in front of a paying audience, it's best to rely on intellect. Get your point across without flinging insults back and forth, by reciting the facts instead. Leave out the verbal abuse and you will appear intelligent.
Tennis star Serena Williams might want to consider this the next time she finds a judge's call questionable. During the 2009 U.S. Open Semi-Finals, Williams confronted a line judge over a call and left no expletive un-hurled in her attack. While shocking for tennis fans to hear such filth spew from a female tennis pro, the sports world isn't easily shaken by players' temper tantrums. Fans might find an articulate argument from an athlete far more shocking than a fount of foul, four letter words.
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Zip it Up
"Better to keep your mouth closed and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt," says Mark Twain. In other words, when you're riled up and heated, it's probably more productive to keep your mouth shut.
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Make Grandma Proud
If have a tendency to lose it, think about your grandma. What would Grandma advise? She probably doesn't want her little darling swearing and throwing fits in public. After all, how you behave does reflect on your relatives. One bad apple spoils the whole bunch.
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Use Company Manners
Call me old-fashioned, but I prefer politeness. A little decorum goes a long way in soothing nerves and negotiating a solution. Opinions aren't changed by bullying. If you feel the urge to shout out, shout out something positive.
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Step 5
Rein in Rage
Anger, ranting and raving is bad for health. From high blood pressure--to heart disease--to stroke and depression--acting out might land you in the doctor's office. Who can afford that? It's better for your heart and your relationships if you replace rage with sensible responses. Be gentle with yourself. Your heart and family will benefit from your mild manner.
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Choose Happy
Unless you're big on apologizing in public for rude remarks and bad behavior, it's really more satisfying to think happy and avoid embarrassment. Replacing angry thoughts with pleasant ones will keep you calm. Children are watching, so set a good example. Say out loud: "Today is a good day to be alive."
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Step 7
Stop and Chill
If you are getting riled up, take a break, go for a walk, get a drink of water and cool down. Don't be dumb. Don't do something stupid. If you need to do something, do something smart. Walking away is not being "chicken;" it's a strategic action.
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Step 8
Be a Lover, Not a Fighter
Sometimes you have to put up with other people's bad manners, but you don't have to adopt their immature ways.
Treat neighbors and strangers as you would like to be treated. Stomp out rude by applying the "Golden Rule." Make love your mission.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
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